Things I am digging

Welcome to the first of a series of posts, dedicated to the sweet finds I have discovered on the inter web

1) Online Shopping!

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When you have young kids, the thought of going around a store with them in tow just is a total buzz kill!  When I do shop, I like to freely roam the aisles, you know, browse around.  But when I have to take the gremlins with me, I am a woman on a mission.  No deviating from the plan.  I have my list and I am in and out.  I know that if I go off plan, I will have:

  • a tantrum to deal with
  • to make an unplanned purchase of the kids choosing (and have to explain to my husband why I brought it)
  • panic shop and get things that I didn’t really get time to inspect or compare around
  • leave empty handed because I just can’t deal with life right now when the kids are screaming, pulling things off shelves, saying “why are we here, this is boring, lets go” – (what the heck was I thinking? your not a cool easy going mum! You are a stress case and belong in your home).

NO THANKS.  Give me an online store and I will gladly pay the shipping fee.  But in most cases, you spend enough and its free, so WIN!

I actually even believe that this is a much better way of shopping.  You fill up your cart, then you see the total cost, plus shipping and then you, (heres the best part) have time to stop and ask yourself – “Am I truly prepared to spend this much? Do I really want it?”  

When I get to the counter at an actual shop and the items are rung up and the total is read out to me – there is NO turning back! Sometimes the total shocks me and with a big gulp I may ask, “Im sorry, how much?”  But thats where my pride gets the better of me.  The stuff is already in the bag – they do that on purpose.  Are you really going to be THAT person who says at that moment – “hmmm, you know what…thats too much.  Can you pull it all out, im gonna put a few things back”.  The correct answer is no.  You swipe that card and you cry on the inside.  You see – this whole scary situation will never happen again.  You can abandon that online shopping cart – SHAME FREE!  Sure I may get an email to say, “don’t miss out – your cart is waiting for you” but that leaves me with no shame in my game.  I’m actually happy I dodged an impulse buy bullet.  l’ll often visit an online store multiple times before buying.

Lately I have taken advantage of creating favourite lists.  I will fill the list up and revisit it each time im on there.  I’ll usually remove things that I no longer like.  I quickly find out which things I truly love – then use my spending money to purchase the things I actually love. Voila! You are a shopping warrior!

2) Gold Accessories

In the past I always considered gold jewellery to be an “old lady” thing. And now that I am an old lady..I can’t get enough!! It’s more that I prefer quality over the quantity you get from cheaper jewellery. I can no longer stand they way cheaper jewellery loses its shine so soon after buying it. I even hate the way it ends up smelling – like corroded batteries (is that weird? Am I alone on this one?) So I decided to invest in some simple pieces I can wear with everything and still feel pretty and together. I love Madebymary. Their pieces are so pretty and understated. Plus I love the personal touch of having hand stamped messages or names you can add on.

I also purchased a simple pair of gold hoops from Michael Hill jewellers. They are an investment for me. Other than that I wear my wedding ring and a ring given to me from my mum. I will still buy “trending” earrings for short use, but I love my other pieces for everyday. Again, its quality over quantity – a sure sign of your ageing.

3) Exercise challenges on Instagram

As you know I’ve been doing the #100squatchallenge. I have really found it enjoyable. For me it works – I actually like exercising alone, but I like feeling like I’m apart of something and am accountable to people once I put myself out there. I have read Rocamoons blog post where she is starting another round of #stokedtosweat. So once my 30 days is up, that will be my next quest. It’s great that you actually can find free resources from these kinds of communities online to get active and healthy. Why not get involved?

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So that’s it for this month. Hopefully I’ll find some more things for you soon!

Xo Dee

Potty Training

Where do I start with this awesome topic?  Maybe the constant clean ups, or perhaps the continual use of “wee wee in the potty ok? not the floor ok? in the potty..not the floor, got it?”  I hate potty training!

Now this is my beautiful third child.  My first two did not give me grief when it came to this inevitable milestone.  Both I potty trained over a weekend to a week.  Then we would put a nappy on when we had to go out and do stuff, but I would keep asking if they needed to go potty. Sure we had the odd accident, but nothing too major.  Fast forward 5 years and this ‘angel’ has given me a whole new world of grief.  She is showing ALL the signs she is ready, like tells me to change her nappy because “I done wees/poo poos”.  Yet when I tried to train her around 2.5. years old she would scream as we would even head to the potty.  She would run away.  I would sit her on the attachment to the toilet and she would either have a meltdown; stiffen her body so she wouldn’t be sitting or clench her whole body to prevent something from coming out.  At that time I also had a newborn baby and would have to put that baby down quickly if she would be showing signs of wanting to go and race to the toilet with her.  Then I would hear my baby screaming while I was holding her on the toilet, telling her to relax.  In the end, I just put her nappy on and said, whatever.

So that brings us to today.  Here we go again.  Now my baby is 10 months, and I’ve got time to work on this again.  I’ve changed my tactic and purchased a portable potty.  On the first day its no pants, no underwear – just free ballin.  I put a waterproof mat down, and her potty on top.  Ive filled up all the water bottles and im ready to go.  All morning I’ve hyped her up about being a ‘big girl now’, how awesome it would be if she did it.  We had here favourite shows on and she was happy.  I even brought meals to her to relax her.  When I heard her fart on there I thought, AHA! Its coming!  “Good girl” I said.  Let those poops come.  Then I actually saw her clench up again.  “No!” she said.  Dang it!

Now, I visited Instagram and searched the potty training hashtag and watched some stories.  Holy crap, I loved it! So nice to see other mums in the same boat, just as annoyed and drained and frustrated as me.  Yay! I mean, I don’t bother comparing my kids to others, because they have always marched to their own drum anyways.  But it sure is nice to see that I’m not the only one struggling.  It’s nice to see that some kids are harder than others, and thats OK.  Its nice to see some mums be candid and upfront about it.  It just makes me have the encouragement to keep going. So if you’re in the thick of it…keep it up.  Not all kids are easy and you are doing awesome!

 

KonMarie Method

22318578 I recently spotted a post on Instagram of the hashtag #KonMarie.  The picture was of a giant pile of clothes in the living room.  She was showing how she was tidying up her place using this method.  Curious, I went straight to Google and was immediately hooked.

KonMarie is a term coined by Japanese author Marie Kondo.  She has dedicated her life to the art of tidying up, having her profession as a “tidying consultant” since she was 19. I HAD TO KNOW MORE!!

I got a hold of the book and read like a maniac.  This book is an answer to my prayers, without even knowing I said a prayer!  I have felt so frustrated with our organisation system at home.  There is clutter EVERYWHERE.  But I had resigned myself to the fact that this is just how life is with 3 children in the house.  Yet everyday it bugged the crap out of me to see the same messes, in the same places.  Do you feel me?

So, I’m going to share a REALLY brief overview of the book below, but I would highly recommend reading this book yourself.

The overarching message is this book is this:  You can change your life, your level of happiness, by changing the way you tidy.   How can that be you ask?  Marie boils it down to two concepts.

  1. Let go of things that do not spark joy
  2. Find a home for all the things that bring you joy.

The first step is to go through your things, and she specifies which order to do that in (Clothing, books, papers, komono , memorabilia).  As you go through each area, you bring every single thing out of that space and handle each item at a time while asking yourself, “Does this spark joy?”

The theory behind this is that she believes we have way more stuff than we need, use or even want.  But our fear of letting go leaves us with an overabundance of “stuff”.  Through the book, she describes every item you own as though it were a person.  Think about items you own that are stuffed in the back of drawers, or in the bottom of boxes, squashed under the weight of other items.  How do you think that feels?  If that item has been left for more than 12 months without you even noticing it, the odds are, you are ready to part with it.  She asks, “Can you imagine coming to home to your house and everything inside brings you joy?”  Why can’t it be this way?  This is the first step – letting go of the things that don’t bring you joy.  For me that was the clothes I said “one day ill fit you”, but made me depressed every time I looked at them.  Or even clothes that I wore because, well it fit and it was fine – but brought me absolutely NO joy.  It was the most freeing feeling EVER!

The Second step is to then have a home for everything.  She also specifies that we should not organise our things by room, but by category!  So lets take Pens for example.  You will usually find pens in all rooms of the house in drawers, containers, bags etc.  And you have an allocated space in your room, the lounge, or office.  But Marie says every pen should be in one place.  Likewise, all your books, papers, clothes, blankets…you get it. If this system was active, you would never lose anything again.  And, whenever you see an item out, you know immediately where it needs to go home to.  Tidying suddenly doesn’t become a matter of shoving things out of sight.  Instead, it is a method of simply returning things to their home. (insert brain explosion sound).  I mean…come on!! For me, this was one of those, “DUH! HOW HAVE I NOT BEEN DOING THIS? What the heck have I been doing?” We have pens in all rooms, in different draws.  hairbrushes all over the house.  Toys all over the house.  This is going to change my life!

So, im gonna let that simmer for a bit.  Sometimes too much information can be overwhelming.  Ill follow up this post with a bit more about the method and how I’m applying it to my house.  Stay tuned for the next episode!

100 Squat Challenge

I’m not a fitness fanatic. In fact, I’m pretty sure I’m allergic to cardio. But now that my baby is almost 1, I think it’s time to start getting active again.  There are so many excuses NOT exercise, and if I’m honest, I’ve been hiding behind these excuses for the past 6 months.  But I saw this on Instagram and I just thought…you know what? I will do that.  I thought, great:

1)I have the whole day to do it.

2)I don’t need a babysitter.

3)I don’t need equipment. Just a great attitude and commitment.

 

I put an inst-story out asking for anyone who wanted to join and had a few friends reply. (Yay!) I must admit, it instantly made me commit to it because now I had people following along and now I can’t back out..kind of like when you are sitting in a roller coaster and the harness comes down and you think “what have I done?”

Recently my dad was diagnosed with diabetes. Now, before you make assumptions, he is a seemingly fit looking guy. He works as a scaffolder and has for the last 20+ years. His work is very physical. So it was a shock to us both when he was diagnosed. His downfall is his love of Coke. Like 2 litres a day of Coke. But, otherwise he eats really healthy and not a whole lot. This diagnosis gave me the nudge to look after my health now and reminded me that our bodies are not invincible. They need to be cared for.

So – Day one of the challenge was easy mentally, but tough physically. My legs were stiff and I found it hard to get low.

Day 2 was better but I felt the effects of yesterday

Day 3, I woke up thinking owwww. I felt the squats were a bit easier as my range of motion felt better.

Now I need to kept up the work and Just Do It! Woo!

Yep, another blog

A blog? (Insert eye roll emoji) Yep. It’s a blog!! Yay.

I’ve decided to start this for the following reasons

  1. I want a space where I can express myself freely. Being a stay at home Mum leaves me with very little space to have adult conversations, to express my thoughts and have a voice. This will be that place for me.
  2. I like to write! However, like anything in life, if you don’t practice, you lose it. I hope to develop and practice the art of writing.
  3. I want to. My goal is not to get huge followers, or whatever “influencers” do. I really don’t care if no one reads this. This is sincerely for me. So if you do stumble upon this, Hi! Let’s be friends 🤗
  4. To give something that someone out there may find helpful – in someway.
  • So here we are. I’m excited to build this.
  • At this stage in my life, my main focus is family and motherhood. I’m a pretty awful cook, and average everything else. I don’t have fantastic recipes or tips to share right now. But I am on the quest to become a better person all round and help my girls become the best they can be. That is what this will be about. Let’s do it!